We are so damn selfish. Now this can be healthy when it comes to looking out for yourself and helping yourself to help others. Ralph Emerson said the most beautiful compensation in life is that one cannot help another without first helping himself.
Now that is great news. However, ever noticed how selfish humans can be in conversation with each other. If you want a serious brain fuck try this:
Spend a week listening to other peoples conversations and notice how they respond to one another. 99% of the time their response will start with a personal pronoun such as 'I' or 'My'. "I had a similar experience...", "I've done that before as well", "My brother does that as well" etc.
How bloody selfish!
Haha careful with this exercise because you will start hating people for a short while....
To make things worse we are normally thinking about this response whilst the other person speaks which means we weren't truly listening anyway!!
Spend a week observing this and then for every conversation you have, make a conscious effort to zone in on the other person. Put all personal agendas aside and put all focus on that person and what they are saying. Then respond with things like: "how did that feel?", "you must be so pleased", "what will you do next?".
If you can practice this and habitualize it, you will build much better relationships in business, and among your friends and family. People will feel that you are genuinely interested in what they have to say and you will be rewarded in return.
Happy listening like a superhuman. ;-)
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